On My Journey
We all struggle with similar problems and have similar thoughts. But since it is general custom to not share our struggles, we often feel alone in them. By sharing my own journey - which includes the good and the bad, I want to shed light on common struggles, be it in relationships with others or in our relationship with ourself.
The experiences and discoveries that I share are triggered by coping with everyday life, by being coached, or by my client’s experiences and discoveries during our sessions, all of which I can relate to in one way or another. Once we start sharing more than just our polished success stories, we realise that we really do all share similar struggles - we are just very good in covering them up in a polite or boastful way.
I hope that by opening up about my journey (that means ‘the unfinished product that is me’), others may benefit from the insight that ‘it is not just me!'
One of my parenting resolves is to raise my child to be in touch with his emotions. This means letting him experience good and so-called bad emotions and giving him the emotional vocabulary to identify what he’s feeling. This is a challenge for me, since the little one is way more in touch with the full range of emotions than I am. A recent incident helped me to better understand what my little son might be feeling when he is having a full-blown tantrum.
... while trying to kick myself in the butt only resulted in procrastination and further exhaustion.
Who do I really want to be? What do I really need? If you are grappling with those questions, you’re already a step ahead! Most of the time, we don’t even ask these questions and just operate on autopilot and unconscious “should” rules that we have made up based on societal expectations and/or parental upbringing and role-modelling.
How realising that I am capable of petty jealousy and righteousness brought me a feeling of elation and may potentially whisk away relationship problems that may not be any problems at all.
A tale of unicorns, giraffes, and elephants - and of finding the strength within.